Fr. TJ. Puliyan, MSFS
- Playing the victim: This is when someone thinks everything is happening to them and everyone is out to get them. They cannot take responsibility for their choices or circumstances; nothing is their fault.
- Takes everything personally: These folks assume everything is a personal attack. Giving them feedback is nearly impossible because they think you’re trying to hurt them.
- People pleasing: People pleasers hide their personalities and preferences to get others to like them. It’s hard to trust people-pleasers because they will sacrifice their truth in pursuit of external validation.
- Entitlement: These folks think they deserve more than everyone else. They think their life should be easy and they shouldn’t have to work for anything.
- Guilt-tripping: Guilt-trippers will manipulate you to do what they want by evoking guilt. They’ll say, “I knew you didn’t really care about me.”
- Creates drama: These folks are always gossiping and stirring up unnecessary conflicts. You’ll get caught in an endless spree of emotional chaos if you are close to one of these folks.
- Holding grudges: Some folks can’t forgive and let go. They’ll hold on to that time four years ago when you lost your temper and secretly hold it against you.
- Boundary violating: Some people will constantly push your boundaries over and over and over again. It can be hard to feel safe and respected with such folks.
- Passive aggressiveness: These people are afraid of conflict, and instead of ever having a difficult conversation, they will subtly take out their hurt on people by not laughing at their jokes or giving silent treatment.
- Martyrdom: Martyrs need to prove their worth by sacrificing themselves. These people will seek out unnecessary suffering and wear it as a badge of honor. They can be hard to relate to because they’re constantly trying to save you, whether you want them or not.
